There was a time when I thought that there couldn't have been anything worse than me being dumped or being single. Little old me, out there on my own without a partner to lean on...how would I cope?! If I could give myself at that stage any advice from what I know now, it would be that you will be FINE. More than fine, you'll be thriving.
If you're struggling to be single at the moment, have a look at the next few points I'm about to make to cheer yourself up.
Use This Time To Learn About Yourself
You're a great person, and if you don't believe that then you're wrong. Sorry, but you're just wrong. A lot of single people don't believe this because they feel like if they were great, they'd have a partner who wanted to be with them. Please start realising that your own company is just as good as, if not better than, the company of someone else. It's okay to take yourself to the cinema or have a glass of wine in front of the telly on a Saturday evening. Treat yourself the way you'd want to be treated by someone else - you'll soon realise that you're more than capable of making yourself feel good.
For God's Sake, Don't Chase Anyone
I really mean this one!!! If they have to be chased, then they're not interested in you and are not worth the attention you're giving them. Maya Angelou said "When people show you who they are, believe them the first time". If someone is not making the effort with you and has shown you that they're not interested, leaving you pining after them and constantly seeking answers - shrug your shoulders and GET RID.
Only put in the time for people who are putting in the time for you. If they aren't, move forward and please stop wasting your time.
There Are Good People Out There
I find it difficult to remember this sometimes, but then I remember that I'm a catch and I'm not taken, so there must be others out there just like me. If you're single and available, and you know how much you're worth then clearly not all the good ones are taken because you're still single. Take my advice and get out of your own head. There are plenty of people out there waiting to give you exactly what you need.
Music Is More Important Than You Realise
I listen to music whenever I have a free moment. If there's a part of the day where nobody is talking to me and I don't need to be doing anything, I'm most definitely listening to music. My advice to you would be to create a playlist full of songs that make you feel good about yourself and reminds you of your self worth, because it's definitely easy to forget how amazing you are.
My playlist is full of songs that make me smile, and it never fails to put me in a good mood - I'm listening to it whilst I write this with a massive smile on my face because I know I'm a bad bitch, and you should too.
Love Yourself The Way You Want To Be Loved By Your Partner
And yes, I do mean sexually as well. Masturbation is something that isn't talked about enough, and I don't understand why it's such a taboo subject. You deserve to make yourself feel good, and you're totally capable of it. Explore yourself and work out what you like - there's no harm in experimenting with yourself.
If you have a day where you're feeling down about yourself and you're thinking nasty thoughts, stop for a second and ask yourself if you'd put up with it if your partner was saying these things to you. As a self respecting woman, I can tell you that I don't put up with anything that makes me feel less than what I know I'm worth. If you want a healthy relationship with someone else, you need to start by having a healthy relationship with yourself first.
Focus On What You Have, Instead Of What You Don't
This comes from 'The Law Of Attraction'. If you're not familiar with it, I'd definitely urge you to read into it. A basic description of it is that what you think, you'll attract. When it comes to being single, if you think negative thoughts about the situation you're in, then you're putting out negative vibrations and people will be able to feel that.
Try focusing on your wonderful friends, your job, hobbies you love and anything else that brings joy into your life. When you think positively you attract positive energy, and that's exactly what you need right now.
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